If you are like most women, immediately he pops the big question and you say yes, the next thing that will cross your mind is the ladies who will be in your bridal party. The news is just too exciting to hold a bit longer. But before you start calling all your girlfriends to be your bridesmaids, there are important things you should put into consideration.
Your wedding day is among the special days you will live to remember for a lifetime. Hence, ensuring it turns out just the way you had visualized is the way to go. Bridesmaids have a very big role to play on the days before the wedding, the actual wedding day and even days after the wedding. You, therefore, need to be very keen when choosing them. Apart from choosing bridesmaids who know exactly how you want your wedding experience to be like, there are also many things you should consider. Remember every wedding is different, do not be carried away by the way your friend organized her bridesmaids only to regret later. No need to panic though, below are six crucial things you should consider when choosing your bridesmaids and make your dream wedding a success.
Weddings require time and commitment because they involve a lot of planning. If you don’t want to start dealing with absentee bridesmaids because they could not find time to come for the meetings, it is better not to have them in the first place. Only choose the ones who are willing to sacrifice their evenings and weekends just for your big day. Get ladies you can depend on. Women who are willing to assist you wherever they can. Distance is something else that can hinder some of your bridesmaids to be with you when needed. It’s therefore better to select the ones that live near. You will have simplified your work and saved them the trouble of commuting all the time. In short, choose ladies who are available most of the time. They are the most suitable people to make your day efficient and smooth. With that kind of a team, you can be sure you will have fun on your wedding day.
When planning for your wedding, you need all the support you can get. This special day is about you and the love of your life. You should be surrounded by people whose goal is to see you happy and make the day a success. Let’s be realistic, if someone was not in support of your relationship, how then will they be supportive on your wedding day? The best way to handle such people is to exclude them from the bridal party. If you fail to do so because you fear hurting them, you will end up dealing with negativity on your special day. Instead, choose ladies who are supportive, encouraging and ready to assist you whenever they can. Such women will bring positive energy, lift you up and celebrate this special journey with you.
Another important trait that most brides-to-be fail to consider is bridesmaids’ confidentiality. It’s very important you deal with people you can trust. These are people who you will spend a lot of time with and you will share a lot of information regarding the wedding plans. Thus, your bridesmaids must be trustworthy. Do not dare have someone you are not sure if they really want to see the day turn out as planned. Remember that the information your bridesmaid gather about your wedding plans is enough to jeopardize the whole process if they desire to do so. More so, they can sell out the information to someone willing to ruin your day. Be wise.
4. Dramatic women
Please reconsider before asking a drama queen to be in your bridal party because you don’t want to hurt them. This is usually the case when you feel obliged to choose your soon to be sister-in-law just to please your in-laws. Don’t ask someone whom you feel will not add value in the whole process no matter who they are. No need to feel guilty about it though, it’s your wedding and you have the right to choose your bridesmaids. Besides, you want women who can empower, encourage and support you during this special moment of your life. If you are not comfortable with someone being in your bridal party, then better involve them in some other ways. Of course, some will make the exclusion look like a mountain, but it’s better to deal with some drama later on other than on the actual wedding day. It’s your wedding day, protect it by all means!
5. Wedding size
Before you invite all your friends to be your bridesmaids, consider the size of the wedding. If you are planning a small intimate wedding, then the number of your bridesmaids should be proportionate to that. If the bridal party is too big, the guests will not feel like they are part of the wedding. On the other hand, if your wedding is big, a very small bridal party may seem insignificant. The import thing here is to balance the two. Experts recommend one bridesmaid for every 20 guests. Even if you will not be this specific, at least play around that number and you will be good to go.
6. What he wants
Don’t you think is important to consult him in your plans and the women you intend to include in the bridal party? It’s his wedding too and he deserves to be happy. If he is not comfortable with a certain girl, please do not include her against his wishes. You also need to be on the same page about the number of bridesmaids you intend to have so that it can match the number of his groomsmen.
Now that your wedding day is around the corner, consider the above and choose a team of bridesmaids who will support you on your special day. If someone turns down your request to be part of your bridesmaids, don’t be upset regardless of the reason. The last thing you want to deal with during your wedding plan is stress and bitterness. Be content with what’s available.